“I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once.” ~ Jennifer Yance
I don’t do well with change, but I do handle it okay if I know it is coming and have time to prepare for it. But man oh man am I stressed out right now.
I so dislike moving. I mean I really, really despise moving. But the one good thing about our family moving is that since we have been military for the past 24 years, the military has moved us, except one move, we did ourselves. (At that time, my oldest was 5 years old, and my youngest two were not even born yet and that move wasn’t too bad) So, having military movers is a pain in the butt, because they don’t show up on time, they always pack weird stuff in one box together that doesn’t even go in that particular box and they almost always break something or stuff seems to mysteriously disappear. But, at least they do the packing, loading, transporting, and unload it into the next house, and we didn’t have to do all of packing up of house and moving it ourselves.
Since my husband retired from the Air Force a little while back, we have to move off base, where we have lived for the past 11 years. We thought that we had until March 2nd to be out of our base house, since he just paid our last month of ‘rent’ from his last active duty pay check. So, imagine my displeasure when my husband tells me the other day after we had spent an entire day looking at rental houses in our area that we needed to choose a house ASAP and move out next Friday. Which just happens to be… Friday the 13th. Now I am not one of those people that are into bad luck days, but I just think it’s kind of ironic that this date falls on the day he wants to move out on.
So, now he wants
us me to pack up the house this week and have it done by Friday, and then WE will move it ALL on Saturday. As in six days from now. SIX days.
We live in a two story, 2500 sq ft. house, with heavy furniture, and I’m almost positive it will only be my husband, myself and our two teenage children moving ourselves.
I am so not looking forward to this at all. The stress of finding just the right house in a few days, ME signing the papers; on the lease (since my husband starts a new job tomorrow and will be working M-F 8-5 and he will not be able to). Then I will need to book the truck, and of course pack up the house and schedule all the utilities to be turned on and transferred at the rental house.
Have I said just how much I despise moving? I don’t think I can say it enough. Oh my gosh!!! I hate moving! And don’t get me wrong, I know that this too will pass. But what I do know is that I will have a freaking sea of darn boxes for a good long time in my new garage, kitchen, living room, dinning room and everywhere else…(if I even have many boxes) for a good long time to come, because the unpacking part takes a long flipping time! Grrrrrrr! And with me packing it, I know in the end I’m going to get lazy packing and just end up throwing stuff together and forget to label the boxes good enough.
Going from active duty military life to the civilian world so far just truly truly sucks with a capital S! It took my husband way too darn long to GET a job. He was offered three jobs…as in ‘Yes Mr. Wright, we want you, you HAVE the job,” over the past three months and either (#1) the place…a very BIG company, came back and said, I’m sorry, we have a line down, sorry we promised you a job, but maybe by March we can give you a job. (This was right after Christmas) (#2) Another BIG company just didn’t call back for three weeks after which then said, we still don’t have a shift for you yet. Yes they actually waited that long and said that. (#3) the last company didn’t even call back after offering him the job. What is up with these companies after saying he was hired? (shaking my head) He starts at a very good job tomorrow, a M-F job 8-5 working in a lab. He and I are very excited. It’s a big change for him, but one he is looking forward to.
All the other civilian changes that have stunk have been the military type changes about our health care coverage, dental care, etc. We knew we would be paying something for our healthcare coverage to get the same type of coverage that we were getting, but we just didn’t think we would have to pay the first three months of that coverage up front and we didn’t think that our dental coverage would have a $50 deductible per person, which I know isn’t bad, but we weren’t use to having one. All these things just add up when you aren’t use to paying for them. Then add to that the cost of every one of my specialist visits now. Since he is now retired I will now pay a small co-pay every time I go to my psychologist… every other week, every time I get my allergy shots..which is weekly, every time I see my psychiatrist, etc. Any visit that is not my primary care doctor on base. Like I said all this adds up. But it is just part of being retired from the military.
I will get over the stress, and it’s not too terribly bad…if I don’t think about moving, or packing…or just don’t pack anything. Or don’t think about anything at all. Haha! Like that’s gonna happen! Not! But seriously…the stress is stress, but..like I have learned over the past 6-8 months…I can handle this. I have handled a lot harder things.
As Paul says in Philippians 4:13 “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~William James